About Gavin

Gavin Demurger-Jones, Counselling Therapist

Thanks for taking time to read about me. If you have any questions, get in touch.

For a long time I knew something was missing. I'd spent years in the corporate world, fast paced, social, genuinely enjoyable in many ways, but at the end of the day I wasn't helping anyone. Not really. Not in the way that mattered.

Then I read a book. Alain de Botton's Status Anxiety, and it was the first time I'd read something and thought, how has this person written a book about me without ever having met me. That sent me down a rabbit hole of existentialism, philosophy, and the question of what it actually means to be a person. Combined with a deep desire to help people on a personal level, that's what brought me into therapy. It took the best part of ten years to find it. But I got there.

Somewhere in that ten years I trained in body psychotherapy, and it's stayed with me ever since. I did my diploma in counselling at the Minster Centre, graduating in 2020, then kept building on it, embodied resonance training in 2022, and Nick Totten's body, breath and energy course, first in 2025 and again in 2026. It's become fundamental to how I work. We're not a brain on legs, and a lot of what troubles us lives in the body as much as in our thinking.

Men have also found their way to me over the years, more than I ever set out to specialise in. It's grown into a real body of experience, facilitating men's groups, working one to one with men, and thinking hard about what men's lives actually look like now, what's shaped them, and what's still shaping them.

What am I like in the room?

I'm not a quiet, sit and listen therapist. I lean in. I use my intuition, I take risks, and I'll say the thing that's hovering in the air between us, the thing you haven't quite said yet but already know is true. It can feel challenging. Sometimes a little scary. But that's usually when something shifts.

I work with mind, body and spirit, because I think all three matter. And I'll help you move out of your comfort zone, not to make things harder, but because that's where you discover things about yourself you didn't know were there.

If you're nervous about reaching out

Everything is welcome in the room. You can collapse and cry. You can stamp on the floor. You can say things you don't mean, get it wrong, contradict yourself, that's not a problem, that's just how we think things through out loud. None of it will shock me, and none of it will make me leave.

Life is genuinely hard. Too often the world just says get on with it, move on, that was ages ago. My view is that experiences stay with us, and the more we can say things out loud, with all the mess and charge they carry, the more we can understand them, and eventually find some distance from them.

This is a conversation without consequence. All of you is welcome. And I'll be there next week, and the week after, and we'll work through it together.

I see clients in Borough, central London, and at held in Haywards Heath, West Sussex.