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For a long time I knew something was missing. I'd spent years in the corporate world — fast-paced, social, genuinely enjoyable in many ways — but at the end of the day, I wasn't helping anyone. Not really. Not in the way that mattered. Then I read a book. Alain de Botton's Status Anxiety — and it was the first time I'd ever read something and thought: how has this person written a book about me without ever having met me? That sent me down a rabbit hole of existentialism, philosophy, and the question of what it actually means to be a person. Combined with a deep desire to help people on a personal level, that's what brought me into therapy. It took the best part of ten years to find it. But I got there. What am I like in the room? I'm not a quiet, sit-and-listen therapist. I lean in. I use my intuition, I take risks, and I'll say the thing that's hovering in the air between us — the thing you haven't quite said yet but already know is true. It can feel challenging. 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In 2012, I received therapy through the NHS to help me through a loss. During that process, my therapist said something that stopped me in my tracks — she asked if I'd studied therapy, because my understanding of what I was going through seemed theoretically grounded. I hadn't. But that moment sparked something. I realised I'd always been genuinely interested in people — in listening to their stories, and trying to make sense of what was happening for them. That conversation became the catalyst for everything that followed. What am I like in the room? With couples, I'm curious. I want to understand what's brought you here — the issues on the surface, yes, but also your backgrounds, the patterns that have quietly developed between you, and the emotions underneath the conflict. I'm drawn to something the couples therapist Esther Perel says: that behind every criticism is an unmet emotional need. When things get heated between partners, I'm interested in what that need actually is. 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