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Counselling or Therapy is a broad term and has a different meaning depending on who you talk to. I see counselling as a place where you can learn more about yourself, understand where you've come from, how that has affected you and have the support of someone that is purely on your side. They don't have an agenda or vested interest in what you do, they just want you to be able to find out what you need. Through this process, people often change and change their lives. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6177ba38adfcb6145e08ba46/1707909322962-AJ6XZV5CT84X9GAUGGD1/image-asset.jpeg What is Counselling? - What does therapy look like? Therapy can feel like a strange experience if you've never done it before. Normally a weekly appointment, where we meet at the same time and the same place. We then talk for 50 mins, looking at what brought you to therapy in the first place or that day. You can bring anything that's playing on your mind and we try to make sense of what it is that you're going through. Once you feel that things have changed and that you don't need therapy anymore, we take a bit of time to reflect on the work that we've done together and how things have changed for you. There isn't a 'standard' length of therapy as every individual has different needs, different life circumstances and when change happens varies. https://www.onyoursidetherapy.com/contact daily 0.75 2024-02-14 https://www.onyoursidetherapy.com/privacy-policy daily 0.75 2023-03-13 https://www.onyoursidetherapy.com/about-elina daily 0.75 2026-05-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6177ba38adfcb6145e08ba46/e6937fe9-4aa6-4cb0-ac9d-e0eb5e7c1e45/Elina+bw.jpg About Elina, On Your Side Therapy - Thanks for taking time to read about me, if you have any questions, get in touch. In 2012, I received therapy through the NHS to help me through a loss. During that process, my therapist said something that stopped me in my tracks — she asked if I'd studied therapy, because my understanding of what I was going through seemed theoretically grounded. I hadn't. But that moment sparked something. I realised I'd always been genuinely interested in people — in listening to their stories, and trying to make sense of what was happening for them. That conversation became the catalyst for everything that followed. What am I like in the room? With couples, I'm curious. I want to understand what's brought you here — the issues on the surface, yes, but also your backgrounds, the patterns that have quietly developed between you, and the emotions underneath the conflict. I'm drawn to something the couples therapist Esther Perel says: that behind every criticism is an unmet emotional need. When things get heated between partners, I'm interested in what that need actually is. 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